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5 Questions You Always Wanted to Ask a Coach

I have so many ideas and thoughts in my mind (Should I hire this person? Should I use this strategy? What should I do?) None of them seem clear to me and I’ve been sitting on these thoughts for months.. What should I do to get more clarity?

Clarity comes from engagement, not thought. I first heard that from Marie Forleo. Whenever you feel stuck and not knowing which path to take, standing at the crossroad of two paths and doing nothing will not help you gain more clarity. It’s only through a series of actions that you will slowly see more, feel more and eventually have that feeling in your gut that tells you “this is the right path”.

Action matters more than ideas. So instead of waiting for days, weeks or months to wait for clarity to strike you, do everything you can, and as quickly as possible to move toward your potential paths/choices/options. You can do this by taking some meaningful steps to turn your ideas into hypotheses, launching experiments to test each hypothesis , learn and feel from each experiment, refine the idea and test again. By following this cycle of hypothesize, experiment, measure outcomes, learn/feel, hypothesize again, you’ll be able to gain more clarity and activate on ideas.


How can I get over the fear of selling?

My mentor once told me, selling is an expression of belief. Which means when you really believe in something that’s so good and that you know that thing will help someone else, you naturally want to SHARE with others by telling them, say what that thing is so good, how did it help, what changed after you use/implement/watch it etc.

When you sincerely share that thing with others, you don’t feel sleazy about it. Why? Because you sincerely believe that it’ll work and be able to help them. You’re simply expressing your belief.

So, if you ever find yourself in a situation where you’re afraid to sell yourself or your product or service (even though it’s fantastic) because you don’t want to be seen as too pushy, too sleazy, or too manipulative, try to shift your mindset by asking yourself these mindset-shifting questions:

  • What will they (the potential clients) miss out on if I didn’t create and sell this service/product to them?
  • How would they suffer (emotionally, physically etc) if they don’t have the solution that I offer?

Bonus tip: When you’re selling, remember that it’s not about you or what others think of you. It’s about your clients or audience. It’s about what help they need and how you can service them.


I’m not sure what I want to do. How can I find the answer?

I believe that you have the answer, within you. The answer is waiting inside you to be explored. All you need to do is dial down the noise that you’re hearing externally (all the should’s, norms etc), and really pay close attention to the voice within you. What is it trying to say to you?

Ask yourself these powerful questions:

  • If you knew you couldn’t fail, what would you do now?
  • If money is not an issue and no one is judging you, what do you want to do?
  • What’s the worst thing that can happen if you try and fail?
  • If you were advising someone else on how to achieve this, what would you tell them to do?


I feel overwhelmed with my to-do list. There are so many tasks and they all look just as important. What should I tackle first?

If you don’t know what tasks to tackle first or find yourself getting through tasks that don’t really need to be done, but they seem the most enjoyable/easy, try this simple fix: prioritize your tasks by urgency and importance using Eisenhower Matrix.

Draw a big cross on a piece of paper to divide the white space into 4 quadrants.

Label them:

Quadrant 1 (Do first): Important & Urgent: These are Important tasks that need to be done today or tomorrow at the latest. Hard deadlines or critical projects.

Quadrant 2 (Schedule): Important but not Urgent: This is where most of your time should be spent and you should schedule these tasks in your calendar.

Quadrant 3 (Delegate): Not Important but Urgent: These are tasks you could delegate. If not, get them done quickly and efficiently.

Quadrant 4 (Don’t do): Not Urgent and Not Important. These are your time wasters. Dump them.


What’s one thing I should master if I want to be successful?

A lot of people start by focusing on different strategies to get ahead. But in order to be successful building a long-term, sustainable, and profitable business, you need to have the right mindset. That’s one thing you should master. Here’s the deal…Strategies don’t work if you don’t have the right mindset. Doesn’t matter how capable you are or what top strategies you have, if you don’t have the right mindsets, you will eventually get in your own way of success. I wish I knew this earlier in my journey, so that I can focus on the right things. It comes down to the difference between limiting and empowering beliefs.



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